One point for Phoenix as a metro area: fresh flowers for you!

PHOENICIANS!!

Our pretty city is getting a flower market!

28^th Street in New York City is one of the more magical spots in a pretty magical city, lined feet deep with flowers on both sides of the south sidewalk. Pedestrians walk through a 5-gallon-bucket rain forest of ornamental trees, bushes, vines, and flowers. LA and San Francisco have their own flower districts, as do London, Paris, and Rome. Now, those cities’ flower markets are outdoors, covering multiple city blocks. Phoenix is still working up to that, but the first great leap is taken! On July 1^st, Arizona Flower Market is open to the public!

Okay, so it’s actually already open to the public. July 1^st is the grand opening, after which it will remain open to the public. That’s the great part: at Arizona Flower Market, YOU (being the public) will be able to get fresh flowers that you choose (by the bunch) from a selection that’s usually only available to florists. This is awesome.

If you’re like me, sometime in the middle of the Phoenix summer you’ve looked at your sad, dim house, where the windows have been closed for two months, and at your sad dried-up common grass area, and wondered how things ended up this way. Then you priced travel expenses to Alsace, Vermont, San Fran, and Sedona, and then you realized your budget for general life improvement was about $35. So you spent a few hours poking around on the internet and making awkward phone calls to flower shops across the Valley, all of which either a) require a wholesale license, or b) only sell bunched roses/carnations/sunflowers, and arrange everything else. Oh how you sighed for a bunch of loose flag iris, or larkspur, or Eucalyptus baby blue spiral grass! (Well, not always the last one.) Then you went to the Parlor NOT for the duck sandwich (though it’s a perk) but to stare deep into the eyes of the floral arrangement on the table and find meaning.

NO MORE. (Not no more meaning. No more staring at other people's flowers for meaning.) 

Arizona Flower Market is offering a rotating stock of imported blooms from farms in Ecuador, China, France, Calfornia, and the Valley itself. It sells by the bunch, meaning you get a certain number of stems for a set price (no splitting bunches unless you’re friends with the owner; then you can probably get away with it). The selection is still a tad limited, but let’s remember that it’s summer in Phoenix and blooms need to be hardy. Hopefully when spring rolls around, some more delicate flowers like ranunculus, anemones, and lilacs will make it on the list.

Some of the highlights on the stock list: 10 small sunflowers for $6.50, 10 Asiatic lilies (!!!) for $12.50, and 10 mini carnations for $8.50. The greenery section may be the most exciting, because while Trader’s Joe’s floral department may sell some bunches of flowers, tracking down bunched greenery and fillers has proved nigh impossible. Arizona Flower Market is offering, among others, 20 leather leaf (I promise it’s pretty) for $6.50, 10 tall myrtle for $6.50, 25 tree fern for $6.50, 10 Ruscus Italian for $9.50.

Let me know if you want to come along on July 1^st for the grand opening! Look for a post with pictures of the goods and a flower arrangement tutorial in the days thereafter.

~Jane

The flower market doesn't have a website yet, but in case you don't believe me, go here, or here: 2050 S. 16^th Street, Phoenix, AZ. It's a partner of Lux Wedding Florists, and you can learn about them here. 

Bridal Showz: Not Just for Girlz

If you’re a tomboy trying to plan a wedding, I feel your pain. I was the only girl in my family of mountain-climbing, road-biking, long-distance-running maniacs. So the idea of a bridal show made my heart sink and my stomach rise in unison as I pictured a pink-and-white fluffy vortex of femininity that would leave me feeling totally inadequate. But this wedding planning thing is hard for me, and there was a deal for the Phoenix Bridal Expo, and I’m a sucker for deals, and… long story short, I ended up in a convention center with thousands of women for 6 hours yesterday.

And I totally loved it.

This was a big shock. Usually this is not how I would choose to use my time. But it was absolutely a great experience. I managed to get a few things dead right, which I think helped make it great, but also learned some things I would definitely do next time. So for you, here are the six shiniest gems I mined: 

1)  KNOW THYSELF. If you’re a vintage girl who likes books and brown paper, don’t waste your time at the neon pink booth with the giant black-and-white feather bouquets. Just walk past it. It doesn’t matter if they have a killer deal or a drawing going on. You’re not going to like it. Look for the people you actually want to hang out with, and hoof it over there!

2)   KNOW THY BUDGET. I don’t mean know how much you want to spend on the wedding all together. I mean know how much you want to spend per person on catering (including service), how much you want to spend on the venue, how much you want to spend on photography PER HOUR, how much you want to spend on tuxes (both total and per tux), how much you want to spend on decorations, etc. A great place to get budget category ideas is www.weddingwire.com . If you can tell a caterer that you want to spend $20 per person for food, service, and rentals, they can tell you on the spot whether they’re the person for you, and you don’t waste their time and they don’t waste yours.

3)   LOOK NICE. Yes, look pretty and pulled-together, but also be serious about being kind throughout the day. Be interested in their business—this is their passion and represents a giant personal investment for them. Just like you’re meeting dozens of vendors, they’re meeting dozens of brides. Be the bride they want to work with.

4)  LOOK FOR THE START-UPS. There are TONS of big-industry wedding people there, but there are also a lot of start-ups, self-employers, and quirky small-business owners who are genuinely fascinating people. Talk to them. Ask them questions. Remember: these people are going to potentially be at your wedding, and you should be excited about that.

5)  GIVE AND TAKE. Don’t just plan on collecting business cards. Hand ‘em out! You will meet people you want to talk to more, and while it’s great to get their card, make this a real transaction and give them one of yours as well. This is another way to stand out from the crowd and be a memorable bride that they want to work with.

6)  LET THEM GIVE AND TAKE. Remember Piece of Advice Number One? There are deals at these shows that have very short expiration dates, often 24-48 hours. BUT if you can generate a personal connection with the vendor, odds are that you can extend that deadline a week or more. Be straightforward about your needs and let them help you.  

So if you’re getting married any time soon, pick a weekend, strap on your cutest comfy shoes, and get to a bridal show. It’s not all fluffy dogs and pink satin pillows (though if that’s your thing, you will not be disappointed). It’s a chance to get tons of fresh ideas, constructively dream about your big day, and maybe even make some creative, plucky, interesting new friends.

Good luck!

~Jane 

Wedding Planning Lessons!

Hello friends!

If you’re getting married soon, I have three pearls of wisdom to add to your tiara:

1) Get a separate wedding email account. It’ll help you control when you wedding-plan, keep things organized, and save your fiancé the anguish of watching you slide into “bride-mode” every time you check your email.

2)  Go to at least one bridal show. A post about how to get the most out of your bridal show day is coming, but get one on your calendar!

3)  Give yourself a deadline on every decision. Every. Single. One. You can second-guess and re-plan ad infinitum because there are way more options out there than you can ever use. Give yourself a deadline and don’t fudge it. Whatever you decide by that day, stick with it and move on.

Check back soon for a post on maximizingyour time at a bridal show! 

~Jane 

Consequentialism or Thomism? Elementary, Watson.

Ethics for 8-year-olds

This week in 3rd grade we studied the rise of Julius Caesar and the subsequent collapse of the Roman Republic. We've spent several weeks studying the balance of power with the Republic, and the various checks within the system to ensure the passage of just laws, so when those checks and balances were overthrown by Caesar, the students were sufficiently horrified. We spend a few days watching Caesar's accumulation of power, occasionally stepping into Brutus' shoes to speculate on what he might have been thinking during those years of civil war and social change. Then, we looked at Shakespeare's imaginative history and read the death of Caesar and the dueling speeches in the Forum.

After the speeches, we took a step back and talked about what just happened. After rereading the speeches, we were able to have a serious conversation about the justness of both Brutus' and Antony's actions. We finally concluded that we could summarize the situation as:

--> Brutus loved Caesar.
--> Brutus loved the just laws of Rome.
--> Caesar was destroying the just laws of Rome.
--> Brutus broke the law to preserve the law.

Their assignment was to answer the question: Did Brutus do the right thing? Why or why not?

Their answers were fascinating. Even though all 29 students sat through the same lectures and participated in the same discussions, these 3rd-graders' paragraphs represented 4 distinct (and remarkably sophisticated) categories of moral reasoning: 1) double effect reasoning, 2) consequentialism/utilitarianism, 3) Kantian deontology, and 4) Thomism.

Double Effect

Double effect reasoning was first clearly articulating in Thomas Aquinas' philosophy in the 13th century. It is distinct, however, from Thomistic moral theory as a whole, because of the way it can be isolated and used to defend contradictory moral judgments.

The principle of double effect applies to ethical situations where there will be multiple outcomes to a single action. For example, if you are driving down a neighborhood street and a person walks in front of you, the decision to swerve will have two outcomes: 1) preserving the person's safety and simultaneously 2) destroying the neighbor's fence. The principle of double effect allows you to value one of those outcomes above the other. The saving of the person's life is worth more than the destruction of a fence, so even though you made a conscious decision to destroy the fence, it was not wrong to do so. Thomism (Aquinas' philosophy) uses double effect to expound on Augustinian just war theory and to defend killing within specific situations.

However, double effect reasoning is a two-edged sword. It hinges on the hierarchy of those outcomes. How do you decide which one is more valuable? What values do you hold that determine your hierarchy of goods? Double effect, depending on its value hierarchy, can be used to defend actions like infanticide, euthanasia, selective sterilization, ethnic cleansing -- and assassination.

One 3rd-grader wrote: "I think [Brutus] did right, because he broke the the law to save his city. And now the Roman citizens can die as free people." (I've corrected the spelling on all quotes from 3rd-graders, but left grammar and usage intact.) This student recognizes two effects of Brutus' action: the death of Caesar, and the freedom of the Romans from Caesar's tyranny. Her immediate experience in class has brought her to love the freedom within the Republic more than Caesar, so she values (like Brutus) the freedom of Rome over the life of Caesar. However, she recognizes the wrongness of Brutus' action by identifying his exact process as "breaking the law," something she recognizes as wrong.

Consequentialism/Utilitarianism 

Consequentialism and utilitarianism are modern ethical theories. There are subtle differences but the two have so much in common that they are often lumped. Consequentialism decides whether an action is right or wrong by examining and evaluating its consequences, utilitarianism its usefulness. These two ethical theories both evaluate the end (or the goal) of an action. They can be summarized in the catchphrase: "The end justifies the means." If the end, or the goal, of the action is morally sound, the means are morally sound.

One of my students wrote, "Brutus did the right thing in my opinion, because if he didn't kill Caesar, the laws of Rome might not be there at the end of the day." The goal of the action was the preservation of Rome. This justified the breaking of the law. This is subtly different from double effect because the two actions aren't considered hierarchically. The breaking of the law ceases to be a morally wrong action because it brings about a morally acceptable end: the preservation of Roman law. Another student put it this way: "I think it was the right thing to do. Because if he didn't do it the law would be destroyed."

On the flip side, one student looked ahead in the story and recognized that Brutus' actions eventually damaged Rome. He also used utilitarian moral reasoning to support his conclusion that, "[Brutus] did not do the right thing. His decision ended the Republic." Because his decision ended the Republic, this student implies, the action was wrong. If it had saved the Republic, it would have been the right thing to do.

Kantian Deontology

Kantian moral theory (or more pretentiously, deontological ethical philosophy) is basically legalism. Duty determines morality. If one fulfills one's duty to the law, one is right; if one violates that duty, one is wrong. Motives, consequences, and usefulness are less significant in deontology (irrelevant in some forms).

Deontology is not a popular 3rd grade moral theory, probably because it involves a somewhat sophisticated devotion to the idea of Law that most 8-year-olds do not have yet. 8-year-olds frequently appreciate the law as a functionary thing (utilitarianism), but they don't necessarily value the Law as a good in itself. Only two of my students are budding deontologists. One argued, "I do not think [Brutus] did the right thing because if he loves Rome's laws, why would he break the law by killing his best friend in cold blood? He did the wrong thing." The wrongness was Brutus' neglect of the law.

Demonstrating a particularly nuanced deontology, one of my brightest students wrote, "Brutus did not do the right thing because you should not kill a man in no war." He parsed the laws about killing, and pointed out that Brutus violated a clause about killing in cold blood as opposed to killing in a just war.

Thomism

Finally, classic Thomistic moral theory. Thomism considers moral actions in a hierarchy (some goods are "better" than others), the end or the goal of the actions, the relationship of the action to true and just law, but adds a piece. Thomism also considers the motives, the intention of the action, in determining whether an action was right or wrong. Intention begins in the reason (part of the soul) and progresses through the will (also part of the soul) to become action. As a result, the intention of an action leaves a mark on the soul as it passes through. So Thomism ultimately considers the effect an action has on the person's soul.

Can 8-year-olds evaluate actions through this complex a lens? It turns out yes, some of them do. One child wrote, "I think [Brutus] did the right thing because he loved Rome." The justification for Brutus' action isn't that justice was threatened, or that he was trying to save the Republic, but that he loved something: Rome.

And my personal all-time favorite response, which looks deontological until the last sentence when its Thomistic nature reveals itself:

"I was studying about this question and I said no, it was not right because [Brutus] killed a man, and saving the law by killing someone is not good, it's destroying life. By killing Caesar, he ended up killing himself twice, once with the knife after the civil war but before too, when he killed his best friend, who was a part of him."

Nature or Nurture? 

There you have it: these kids get different moral philosophies. The question is, how did they form their particular theories? Is it primarily nature, or nurture, that determines a person's ethical reasoning? Another post for another day.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch...

Hey, if you've been wondering what I've been up to, take a look at my piece over at inearnestmag.com. While you're at it, peruse the rest of the magazine! This piece by Jennifer Tharp is a winner, and as always, Kate has beautiful words to share.

Receiving the Gifts

This time of year, everybody is giving thanks for things. What's worse, some of us are writing about giving thanks for things. I apologize in advance for participating in this.

It was the phrase "giving thanks" that got me thinking. There are two giftings implied in every thankful exchange: first, the original gift, and second, the gift of thanks in return.

One possible interpretation of the double-gifting is that giving and thanksgiving are transactional. You know the feeling: someone gives you something, and you feel like you have to say "thanks" for it. If someone gives you a "gift," you "pay" for it by giving thanks. Unfortunately, if this compulsion is at the root of the phrase "thanksgiving," this would mean that neither the original gift nor the thanks were in fact given. They were both purchased, reducing the giving of thanks to obligatory remuneration. If this is how we understand thanksgiving--a required payment for every gift--the whole possibility of giving as a un-self-conscious sacrifice disappears. 

But thanksgiving--both the holiday and the act--isn't seen as primarily transactional. It's not something obligatory, any more than kissing your beloved is obligatory. It's something you ought to do, without it becoming compulsory.

This realm of actions we really must do without being compelled to do them is where things get fuzzy. Just think about it for a minute: we ought to do it, and in some ways we feel like we have no choice. But it's not compulsory. We are not forced to give thanks.

So back to the double gifting. If it's not an exchange of things--gift in return for thanks--what is it? What is the relationship between these two given things, if not transactional?

St. Anselm has a lot to say about gift-giving in his treatise On the Fall of the Devil. The gift in question here is perseverance in righteousness. It's a scholastic treatise, so it winds around a bit in miry bogs of philosophy, but the point is contained in this splendid sentence: "It's possible for non-giving not to be the cause of not-receiving, even if giving were always the cause of receiving." To interpret, St. Anselm is saying that the words "gift" and "give" are chock-full of double actions. A gift is not fully given until it is received. Something cannot be given, even with the most generous of intentions, if it will not be taken.

It seems to me that thanksgiving plays the role of marking the moment the gift is fully given (by being received). It doesn't symbolize an exchange, something given in return for a gift, but the act of receiving the gift fully. Think about the Eucharist, which is actually the etymological source for our word "thanksgiving." It's a reception of a gift, called thanksgiving.

So go and receive your gifts! Let them be given fully by receiving them fully in thanksgiving!

Happy thanksgiving. 

Christ the King Sunday

This year Christ the King Sunday falls on the Feast Day of St. John of the Cross. It also marks the end of the Year of Faith called for by Pope Benedict. The intersection of these three events in the calendar of the Church is pretty wonderful. Here are a few of my thoughts on today.

Christ the King Sunday: the last of the ordinary Sundays after Pentecost in the liturgical calendar. The journey that began in May is nearing its end. This Sunday we meditate on the nature of Christ as King of heaven and earth, on His triumph in inaugurating the Kingdom of God on earth, and on His promise to complete that Kingdom and bring peace to all creation--simply put, we meditate on the end of the world.

The encyclical Quas Primas (which means "in the first," or "the thing that causes") is the most deliberate consideration of the Feast of Christ the King. In it, Pope Pius XI says, "As long as individuals and states refuse to submit to the rule of Our Savior, there would be no really hopeful prospect of a lasting peace among nations." The peace of Christ is not simply a political peace or a social peace. It is not a semblance of political order imposed over fomenting human souls, like the Pax Romana at the time His birth. Christ promises not the wearying notion of a perpetual, unstable peace between democracies motivated by self-interest, as Kant predicates in Perpetual Peace. The peace of Christ is a permeating spiritual peace that fundamentally changes the conditions of life on earth, so the political and social peace become the only conceivable relation between people. Political and social turmoil are symptoms; Christ the King (like Tolkien's healer-king Aragorn) will heal the disease, all the way to the soul.

The celebration of Christ the King is not one-dimensional glorying in the promise of the Kingdom to come, however. Quas Primas makes a magnificent observation:

          "[Christ's] kingdom is opposed to none other than to that of Satan and to the power of    
           darkness. It demands of its subjects a spirit of detachment from riches and earthly things, and
           a spirit of gentleness. They must hunger and thirst after justice, and more than this, they must
          deny themselves and carry the cross."

In other words, those loyal to Christ's Kingdom are not entitled to hate. Often, political and national loyalty are most easily expressed in hatred of other regimes and nationalities; we are held together not by our love of what we are, but by our distaste and hatred for what we are not. But we as Christians are not given this path of easy loyalty. We cannot hate Satan's instruments on earth, nor can we despise those who have succumbed to the power of darkness. Christ's kingship is predicated on the Cross, an act of love for those who oppose Him. If we are to be loyal citizens of His Kingdom, we must also follow in this way of the Cross.

St. John of the Cross was a 16th century monk who suffered cruelly at the hands of non-Christians and Christians alike. He was imprisoned and tortured by his own order of Carmelites, some of whom felt threatened by his attempts to reform the order. After his escape, he began publishing mystical writings and poems that invariably examine the nature of God's love. In an unwitting but apt summary of his own life, St. John of the Cross said, "Where there is no love, put love--and you will find love."

This is an exquisite expression of the kingship of Christ. Where there was no love, He came and brought love, at the cost of His own life. Where there is no love now, He commissions His followers to take love, sometimes at the cost of their lives. This is the spread of His dominion.

Today also marks the end of the Year of Faith proclaimed by Pope Benedict XVI. The Year of Faith "is a summons to an authentic and renewed conversion to the Lord, the one Savior of the world," he said in his letter "Porta Fidei" (The Door of Faith). It is a summons to reaffirm our citizenship in the Kingdom of Christ, and to honor that citizenship with deeds appropriate to that Kingdom. St. John of the Cross is an inspiring example of what citizenship in Christ's Kingdom looks like. But his life and writings, as all examples, point us back to the Door of Faith Himself: Christ, the King whose coronation was the Cross. 

So today ends the proclaimed Year of Faith. Today also is the last Sunday of Ordinary Time. Today, we cast our eyes forward to the end of the world: Christ's Kingdom spread over every corner of creation. But every "end" in the liturgy is not an ending at all. The liturgy is a cycle; we cannot come to the end without coming to a new beginning. Next Sunday is the first Sunday of Advent, the great march towards the initiation of the redemption: the Incarnation. Similarly, the Year of Faith cannot really end until our faith becomes sight at the end of time. But even that will be simply the new beginning. Christ said, "Behold, I make all things new." This is the promise of the Kingdom of Christ, and it is the duty of the citizens of that Kingdom to participate in this promise by seeking, through the renewing power of love, to spread the great news of the King and to look forward in faith to the second Advent, and the beginning of all things.